{just another blog}

Project 365.....21/365

Our vacation dates are set! Tom underlined this on our little magnet calendar....I miss summer!

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KASEY GOT HIS LICENSE!!!!!!!! He was so excited and we were really proud too :)

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This is Ginger the cat....she is a bit of a recluse and really only wants to love you when her food bowl is empty!

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Tom's mom lives in Ohio so she always stocks us up on OSU gear! These magnets make me smile!

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I was on a road trip to STL and we saw Dale Av. OF COURSE it was the picture of the day!

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This has been Tom's winter hobby. He started bulding this plane when boating season ended. He is very proud of this R/C Airplane....I can't wait to see it fly in the spring! NOTE: Those are his favorite slippers too....they are not my favorite!!!

Quote to live by...

"Do not invest in people who are emotionally unattainable" ~ Drew Barrymore.

My oldest sister gave me this quote awhile ago and I kept it in the back of my brain.

I am posting this quote tonight because...tonight these words hold true.

The last few months of 2009 were horrible. I discovered that the time and effort I put into relationships with certain people in my family were futile. This wasn't a new discovery by any means, I have been trying to make it work for YEARS. We have been estranged various times through out the years because I had enough.  But I always allowed them back in my life...not because I missed them, but because I didn't want to regret NOT doing it. I wanted my kids to have family like I did growing up. I compromised my feelings for the sake of theirs....and for what?

For what?

Just so I could get yelled at for trying to do something nice and then expect to go on as if nothing ever happened and never get an apology? Just so I could get stabbed in the back by someone I confided in? Just so I could get talked about on facebook? No Thanks.

Those people refuse to admit they have done anything hurtful. According them they have done nothing wrong. This has replayed more times in my life than I care to admit. Shame on me for that because I should have known better.

I fully admit I allowed myself to get wrapped up in the words I was hearing from them, but I realized their words didn't match their actions.

They were just words and empty words at that.

After the last stunts they pulled I was done. I realized I was the only one working on the relationships. They weren't doing anything, I was the one making the trips to see people, I was the one making the phone calls, I was the one doing the work...ME not them but ME.

Do not invest in people who are emotionally unattainable.

I stopped. I stopped caring what they did, what they said, what they tried to do to get a rise out of me...I stopped. I cannot change them but I can change how I react to them.

Tonight, was the true test. I received a phone call and when I saw the # come up I got nervous. The phone call was as I expected it to be. All about them, and their excuses. When they asked what was going on here I said "nothing". I will not divulge anything to them.

I will not invest in people who are emotionally unattainable.

Project 365......15/365

Love this picture of our family.....

Projecct 365.....14/365

Jake's favorite spot on Friday nights!

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Hannah was very proud and we were too...she was student of the week!